You're Good When You're Bad

The biggest question of the season has come up once again...
Have you been naughty or nice?

People are so quick to judge those who have been "bad". First of all, "bad" means different things to different people. Just because you don't like it, you don't do it, or you don't have the guts to do it (ha!), doesn't make something or someone "bad".

Personally speaking, I would rather be with someone who has a more than colorful past, than with someone who has a squeaky clean history. And why not? "Nice" is mediocre, and a colorful past builds character.

1. Smart VS Intelligent - The intelligent person knows what's right from wrong, and the good from the bad, cos he's read about it. The smart one knows cos he's been through it.
Intelligence is knowing only the basics. Being smart prepares you for the unexpected - and the unexpected, most often than not, always happens in real life. How do you avoid reaching the point of no return? Bankruptcy, divorce, homelessness, etc... Past mistakes teach you these intricate lessons - not books or videos.
So, though an intelligent person may know how to start a fire, it's the smart one who'll know how to keep it burning.

2. Experienced VS Sheltered - Never ever underestimate the power of experience.
How do you make enough money to retire at 40? How do you pick a lock? How do you satisfy your partner's needs? How do you change a flat tire? As with Item #1, reading about something doesn't make one an expert. Get out from behind that book and get your boots wet! You may get dirty, hurt, heartbroken, wounded... So what?!? Remember, practice makes perfect. You gain the know-how when you get down and dirty - when you experience things hands-on.
So, though a sheltered person may be all sugar-and-spice-and-everything-nice, it's the experienced one who will know how to truly satisfy your every craving, your every want and need - mentally, emotionally, physically, and more.

3. Certainty VS Uncertainty - We all know that it's important to know what you want in life - but it's equally as important to know what you don't want.
Every experience you go through ends with you ticking some boxes in your head... Like/Dislike, Add/Subtract, Build/Destroy, Remember/Forget, Share/Shush, Repeat/Avoid, and the like. The more things you go through, the more boxes you mark; the more boxes you mark, the more you know what you want and what you don't want; the more you know what you don't want, the better decisions you make; the better decisions you make, the happier you get.
So how do you know that you won't like something, when you haven't even tried it? How do you know for sure that it won't make you or your partner happy?
Ah, but those who have actually experienced these things... They know.

4. Confidence VS Insecurity - Do you know anyone who keeps raving about the compliments they get? Totally rritating, right? Believe me, they are trying to convince themselves more than anyone else. That's why I like people who have "been there, done that" - they ooze with confidence, without needing to brag, cos they already know what they are capable of.
Bragging is a sign of insecurity. If you need to keep telling the world how awesome you are, then you're probably not. Hehe.

So, yes, I'd rather be with someone who's been there, done that. I'd rather be with someone who's gotten drenched in the rain numerous times. I'd rather be with someone who has already done all the dirty deeds, than one who is just about to do them (this could be detrimental to your relationship as well!).
I'd rather be with someone who knows what he's doing, cos he's done it before; able hands are way better than shaky ones. When a person with all that experience under their belt comes into your life, thank the heavens for finding this wild child, then sit back and enjoy the ride.

NOTE: It's also a bigger accomplishment to tame a wild cat than a house cat. Haha!